1. Find a wedding officiant that will work with you to create the type of ceremony that you are envisioning.
2. Find a style.
* Long, short, traditional or non-traditional.
* Religious ceremony, ceremony with religious elements, or a totally secular ceremony.
* Formal, casual, lighthearted,or themed.
3. Find a tone or theme.
Your wedding ceremony should have a tone and a theme. A theme makes the whole ceremony cohesive, and showcases your personal style. A theme will help you choose vows, find readings, and help you and your officiant write the perfect ceremony.
* Will the tone be nostalgic,relaxed, or formal?
* Is your ceremony aimed toward the community of loved ones there to celebrate and witness your
love, or it more about the two you of you?
* Do you want to incorporate elements for a blended family.
* Will the ceremony follow a theme and build around a common element such as; commitment, love,
family, children, how you met, what your partner means to you, describe your relationship, based on a
video game, book, movie, religious writing, a song or your special creation.
3. Decide which components of the ceremony you want to include.
This is the minimum for a wedding: marriage license, 2 witnesses of legal age, and licensed officiant. Then build your ceremony format from there.
4. Find things that make it feel like your ceremony.
There are a lot of ways to add touches that will make your wedding ceremony feel tailored to you:
* A special reading and who reads it.
* Choice of music for seating of guests, wedding processional, bridal processional, recessional.
* Choice of venue; outdoor, indoor, private residence, park, destination wedding, local venue, hot air balloon, garden, the choices are endless.
* A song sung by a friend, family member, or other musical interlude.
* A blessing, prayer, or family tradition. .
* Formal seating, open seating, or just a gathering of guests.
* Ushers, attendants, bridesmaids, groomsmen, maid-of-honor, best man, flower girl, ring bearer and
page boy or girl.
* Giving in marriage, or support of the couple.
* Specialty ceremonies: sand, unity candle,or your own creation.
* Write your own vows.
* Exchange rings or no ring exchange.